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In short: A lot great theory in here, but that's all it mostly is. Theory. With very little practical explanation or substance. The most practical advice is briefly listed near the start of the book.
My criticisms at length: "They can smell a lack of confidence in a man as if it were rotting flesh" ... "Insecurity in all its various forms will cause a woman to become unsure about you... She will eventually lose the respect and desire she has for you" ... "When you become insecure about something she may begin to lose faith in you... When you begin to waver and become self-doubting... her survival is now at stake."
But then he contradicts himself: "Better yet, be open and honest about it [your insecurities] with the woman in your life." ... "A good woman is one that will support your even though your may have weaknesses and emotional insecurities." So which one is it? Hide and/or don't have them? Or be honest about it thus causing her to "lose the respect and desire she has for you?" He later says it's about how you deal with insecurities - OK, but that's still exposing it to her and having self-doubt. Which, according to him, will lead to her dumping you.
On insecure and negative thoughts he also says: "You have a choice in the matter because YOU decide what goes into your own mind." This isn't wholly true. Otherwise we'd all think positively all the time. You can't simply choose to be happy when, say, your mother dies.
On having a code of conduct (ie values) you live by: "This alone is more than enough to make a really great woman fall in love and stay in love with you." Obviously bullsh*t. This isn't nearly enough (otherwise the book would be done and we wouldn't waste anymore time). Statements like this are trivial and littered throughout the book.
He says "...as a man I choose not to suffer." Theoretically great, but practically bullsh*t. "If there's really nothing I can do... I just relax... let it all go... I might as well relax if there's nothing I can do about it." More platitudes! e.g Clinical Depression or a mugger won't give you a mere choice to not care or be upset. If your daughter is brutally raped and murdered are you gonna relax because there's nothing you can do and you "refuse to suffer?" No. If it really was all that easy, all human suffering would end.
This also contradicts what he says later about taking "full responsibility of [your] entire life... you are where you are in life because of the decisions you've made, and the outcome of your tomorrow will be based on the decisions you make today." This is only a half-truth, as obviously no one has complete control or responsibility over absolutely everything that happens to them, and he's already admitted that sometimes "there's really nothing I can do."
Having your own values and ethics and sticking to them "will drastically improve your life in ways you can't even imagine." Unless you were hitherto a mindless zombie, this is overblown and pretentious, over-the-top sunshine. His blasé theory makes it all seem easy and overly achievable. This is misleading and sets you up for disappointment. So many promises and so little actual substance...
My main gripe is so much of his ideas and convictions are overly simplified. It's all easy theory with very little practical substance. For example: "...close your mind against all negative influences." I.e. simply "do it" without a how or any practical guidance, which is why many of us read self-help in the first place!
Another example of massive oversimplification and generalisation: "Every negative and sinister thing that exists in our society today is the result of fear."
Frustratingly, the ending of chapter 3 stresses the importance of sexual confidence... then simply ENDS! No how-to, no guidelines, not even any dos and don'ts! Nothing! The chapter just ends! (Mark Manson's book Models more than makes up for this complete lack of help as it devotes an entire chapter on how to be sexually confident and how sexual interactions can work well).
On affirmations and positive self talk: "I can guarantee you... you WILL begin to see positive results." Another promise and guarantee he cannot keep or follow through with (ironically). This is false for a lot of people (myself included). And he makes a lot of flippant guarantees. "...don't overlook it as some psychobabble fix that won't get you results." Unfortunately, to many that's exactly what it is. (But if it DOES work for you, as it does for many people, then brilliant.)
The final chapter is full of repetition.
Promises promises promises: "You will lead a much happier and successful life," you will be this, you will be that. He completely misses out the hard work and suffering and rejection and struggle! Life is not rainbows and effortless reward! It takes hard work and commitment and suffering and sacrifice! Not merely a new mindset with some values thrown in! (Eventually he hints at this towards the end when he briefly discusses failure). So many overblown promises about keeping the right woman forever and not having to ever worry etc etc. Which is easy to say because if you break up or she leaves you he can simply say "oh well she just want the "right" one," (which in itself is a symptom of oneitis, a very dangerous and unhealthy attitude and attachment).
Lastly, I don't agree with his final argument that you HAVE to completely accept yourself in order to progress effectively. If I accept my addiction to crack, I'm not going to go as far as someone who refuses to accept themselves as a crackhead and therefore strives to get clean because he cannot accept himself in his current state. Self-acceptance is great, sure, but some useful self-criticism can be just that: useful. It's not ALWAYS bad and counterproductive like many self-help books (like this one) would have you believe.
The bottom line is this: too much theory (albeit GOOD and mostly ACCURATE) and too little substance. All "be this way" with very little to no explanation of how to actually achieve it. He essentially describes a superman in the opening to get your ideal woman, but then later says no one's perfect.
Read it if you've got time and want a Birdseye view of the theory of attraction. I've read far too many books on attraction by now and you're far better off reading Corey Wayne's 3% Man and Mark Manson's Models.
Personally I find it pretty trite and without much use, but given all the good reviews (on the US site, at least) your mileage might vary.
The author puts forward the idea that women are attracted to certain qualities, say, honesty, for example, and so, if you are honest, women will flock to you. Well, at least good women, which is the get-out-of-jail card for the author: if women flock to you, it's proof the theory works. For those women to whom the theory doesn't seem to apply, why, that's because they are not good, quality women.
Any theory that bases itself on rationality of individuals is nothing but wishful thinking, and thus bound to fail. Not that there's nothing in this book that might be worth a read, if it was say, a blog post or something like that.
Yeah! Great. This guy knows what he's writing a good book about:) He shows you in a cool way how important it is to be the alpha mail some of us are born to be. Confindense and that kind. I love it. Probably gonna read it acouple of more times:) I like it when the Author gats the Message thru in a cool way. Worth the Money;)
A well rounded and informative book - and when reading with focus, you will find that it is actually very complete on the subject. Positive and empowering (in a good way - not an overly macho narcissistic kind of way - which could have happened but it didn't thankfully).
Powerful - not just in terms of relationships with the opposite sex, but so much deeper in that it also encourages you to become who you really want to be in ALL areas of your life as a whole.
Thank you Bruce Bryans - A well-covered, empowering success of a book - thumbs up!!
Follow what's written in the book and it all starts to click into place. Even when times are bad you still come out on top as long as you pit in the work and follow this books guidance. Thanks Bruce, much appreciated.